..."But he has to love me"...

No, he doesn't... nor does she!

What's up with people who don't understand that just because they are in love with someone doesn't mean that person loves them back?

I've been there with unrequited love both on the giving and receiving line and its not a fun place to be. But come on...when a person tells you for the 100th time that they don't feel the same way, you are only setting yourself up for heartache in the long run.

No matter how much you love someone, it won't change their heart if that heart doesn't belong to you. Poetry, songs, gifts, relocating, getting close to the person's friends and family, and even getting pregnant won't change the fact. Continuing to pursue someone will drive them completely out of your life and may even make them hate you.

The only thing that you can do is find a way to carry on with the love you feel and face the facts as they are. Daily slaps in the face are no fun.

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I give this speech almost monthly to a friend who won't let go of an ex-boyfriend. Sometimes I think I should just kick her in the ass...and tell her to wake up and stop wasting her life on dreams that were never hers to begin with.